How to kill your husband

Last month my neighbour went to complain to her mother!

*Daughter:* Mom, I can’t stand my husband. I want to kill him but I don’t have the courage to do it, Can you help me? Please!

*Mother:* Yes my daughter, I can. But there is a small problem . You will be forced to make peace with him first so that none will suspect you for his death. You are going to be so much good and kind to him, take care of him.

Be romantic, grateful, patient, loving, submissive to him. See him as your kid not your mate or subject… be less selfish, more just, more listening to him, take all the rubbish from him, don’t nag or criticize him.

My daughter, I know you can do it, so don’t doubt yourself. Work starts this evening. Can you ?

*Daughter:* Yes mom.

*Mother:* Ok, it’s …. Well take this white powder which is the substance to kill him. Every day, you’ll pour a bit in his food and he will die slowly.

*After 30 days, daughter returned to give feedback to her mother.*

*Daughter:* Mom, I really no longer want to kill my husband again. He is soo romantic, loving and caring person. Now I like him, he’s changed and became softer than before. What can I do to prevent the poison?

*Mother:* Hahahahahaha

*Daughter:* Why are you laughing? Is it too late to save my husband’s life?

*Mother:* No, my dear!. You don’t have to worry. What I gave to you was cassava flour. He will not die.

In reality, it is in you that the poison was. When you fuel hatred and resentment in you, it kills slowly even more than a poison, so I have to work on you instead of your husband.

*Daughter:* Hmmmmmm. Thank you, sweetest mum.

*✍ T I P S*

☛Make yourself Happy and *make others around you happy.*

☛When you start to love and cherish your husband, wife, brother, sister, son, daughter, mother and father, *you will see the sweetness in them.*

☛Don’t wait for the person to be sick or die before you accept, *cherish and celebrate people around you.*

☛Before you complain, *check up if the problem is actually from you*

☛Live *peacefully* with everyone.

It is in our power to bring out the best in our spouse and those close to us by giving them our best.


Women discrimination undermines progress


A woman is the mother of human race – created with admirable beauty and grace. Her elegance of deportment and lovely sensitivity to nuances of human feelings; created like a delicate brushstroke of a master artist; the world needs the finesse spirit and lovely touch of woman’s soft personality in peace efforts, leadership, judgment and across the whole spectrum of human affairs.


The Country recognizes the dignity and leadership spirit of women in its new constitution. One third of all appointees in any department should be compost of either gender. But this new constitution has not drastically changed the general attitude men have over women.


Unfortunately many women are made to believe this male chauvinism. Many men are peddlers of retrogressive lies against the dignity and glory of women. The greatness of human being does not lie in the physical strength of his muscles, but in the delicate feelings, empathies, beauty of the heart; in a nutshell these are feminine qualities. Rise up and vie for political posts, in business education, business nurse an ambition to excel.


Women shoulder all the blames and embrace all the stereotypes made to blind us. Women are blamed when marriage is tearing apart or for misdeeds of the husband. Lack of children is blamed on women with the entirety.  In as much as children are widely appreciated as insignias and pride of most happy marriages and custodians of human race, life cant stop when you are unable to have one.


The dynamics of life especially in the realm of economic hardships have made people to be too individualistic. The societal bond and concern for one another that have characterized African societies. Very unfortunate! A typical African man’s mindset is at pains to accept lack of children even if they know they might be the reason behind it.


In the quest for coping up, in this fast changing world, the stress to accept is making people impatient and hostile. The marriage turns in limbo when the partners become victims of frustrations from their parents, religious institutions, society etc.


In colleges, ladies have become victims of sexual abuse by either their lecturers or fellow students. They give in to there sexual escapades to get free marks, exam leakages, to drop retake exams etc. some give in to avoid being at loggerheads with the lectures.

A randy boyfriend and lecturer will later result to unwanted pregnancies which automatically translate to procuring an abortion. Frequency in abortions might either impair the reproductive system or cause infection which leads to barrenness.


Moreover, some ladies also get unwanted pregnancies by sleeping around when they are drunk, during parties among other recreational parties. This overdosing of emergency pills should be looked into.


Many marriages are breaking up due as a result of inability give birth. Some go out to cheat on their spouses to fulfill the societal expectations. Above all is seeking evil power, sorcery interventions that later jeopardize the family or even result to death.  Domestic violence takes root in the marriage and chopping off of hands, severe burns, plucking off eyes, divorce and killing among other harms later erupts.  Such savage acts should be condemned and forestalled by any civilized government or individuals.


Therefore, Gender inequality discrimination and socio-cultural norms in determine women’s role in being procreators, is ill advised. However, the ignorant should be educated on the genesis of children. Ladies should also lead healthy lifestyles that will not affect there reproductive life.


Not only in maseno but all public universities in Kenya. Though its intense here. We have to be embrace IT as we say .A paperless and queueless campus .

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It’s ‘fresher season’ in Maseno University as first year students join campus tomorrow while continuing students make final preparations ahead of their reporting date on 29th August after a four month holiday. But all is not well in the lakeside campus. Comrades at the institution have expressed discontent over the newly introduced online registration system citing major hitches and ineffectiveness in the procedure. According to the students, the automated system, which requires them to pay their fees in full before they can be allocated rooms, favours well-to-do students and discriminates against needy students who rely on the Higher Education Loans Board (HELB). As a result, a large number of students in the campus risk missing out on the limited accommodation spaces since the loans are yet to be disbursed. In addition, the system, which is full of hitches, has been accused of being ineffective based on a directive that calls…

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Diary of a campus mother

At 22, daisy was forced to begin balancing between parenting and classwork .Besides classwork, daisy- not her real name- was overwhelmed with taking care of her 4month old baby. She had just delivered while in her second year. She was taking applied statistics at Masinde Muliro University of science and technology.

Having been used to waking up at 9 and prepare for classes, a typical day for daisy is readjusted to start at around 5.00 a.m. She readies herself ready for school and preparing meals for baby Letisha. She then drops the kid at the nearest day care center on her way to class so that she doesn’t miss classes.

All before 5 p.m., daisy must also squeeze time to work out, study, run errands and do homework. After she picks up Letty, she comes home to do laundry, wash dishes, bathe and cuddle with Letty. After the baby is put to sleep, she reads in the wee time of the night and wake up too to read.

“It is a lot being a single parent and a full-time college student, “Daisy laments. “You are completely exhausted from when you wake up until you go to bed.”

According to her, being a young mother forces you to grow up and mature and to see how the real world is instead of seeing it through the eyes of a naive college student. “You have to be a mother, student, daughter at a tender age,” she adds.

However, one has to give up simple things like napping after class, spring-break trips, going to the bars on weekends, study groups at odd hours of the night — all things that college students can take for granted.

Daisy encourages young women to study and wait before having children. Letty came as a surprise to her during her junior year. She doesn’t for a second regret making the choice to be a mother and student, but that it does leave her emotionally, physically and mentally drained all the time.

Tips on good parenting. Try it out and you will the results…..

  1. Give kids some leeway.

Giving teens a chance to establish their own identity, giving them more independence, is essential to helping them establish their own place in the world. “But if it means he’s going out with a bad crowd, that’s another thing,”

  1. Choose your battles wisely.

“Doing themselves harm or doing something that could be permanent (like a tattoo), those things matter,” says Kaslow

  1. Invite their friends for dinner.

It helps to meet kids you have questions about. “You’re not flat-out rejecting them, you’re at least making an overture. When kids see them, see how their friends act with their parents, they can get a better sense of those friends. “It’s the old adage, you catch more bears with honey than vinegar.” If you flatly say, you can’t go out with those kids, it often can backfire. It just increases the antagonism.”

  1. Decide rules and discipline in advance.

If it’s a two-parent family, it’s important for parents to have their own discussion, so they can come to some kind of agreement, so parents are on the same page. Whether you ban them from driving for a week or a month, whether you ground them for a week, cut back on their allowance or Internet use — whatever — set it in advance. If the kid says it isn’t fair, then you have to agree on what is fair punishment. Then, follow through with the consequences

  1. Discuss ‘checking in.’

Give teen’s age appropriate autonomy, especially if they behave appropriately. Though you need to know where they are. If it feels necessary, require them to call you during the evening, to check in. But that depends on the teen, how responsible they are.

  1. Talk to teens about risks.

Whether its drugs, driving, or premarital sex, your kids need to know the worst that could happen.

  1. Give teens a game plan.

Make sure they have cab fare. “Help them figure out how to handle a potentially unsafe situation, yet save face. Brainstorm with them. Come up with a solution that feels comfortable for that child.



  1. Keep the door open.

Don’t interrogate, but act interested. Share a few tidbits about your own day; ask about theirs. How was the concert? How was the date? How was your day? Another good line is you may not feel like talking about what happened right now. I know what that’s like. But if you feel like talking about it later, you come to me.

  1. Let kids feel guilty.

Feeling good about yourself is healthy. People should feel bad if they have hurt someone or done something wrong. Kids need to feel bad sometimes. Guilt is a healthy emotion. When kids have done something wrong, we hope they feel bad, we hope they feel guilty.”

  1. Be a role model. Your actions — even more than your words — are critical in helping teens adopt good moral and ethical standards. If they have a good role model from early on, they will be less likely to make bad decisions in their rebellious teen years.

Are children a curse?

Child abuse come is subjecting children to torture either mentally, psychologically and emotionally. This is injected either by sexual abuse, health and behaviorally.

In Kenya, more than 3000 young people indicate that violence against children is a serious problem. 32% of females and 18% of males experience sexual violence. 66% of females and 73% of males experienced physical violence and 26% of females.

Violence against children does not appear to be random or uncoordinated, or perpetuated by strangers, abusers are not only known to their victims but are often close to them. They are either family member, relatives or teachers.

Cases of Women throwing their children in the pit latrines has been on the rise. Children are a source of blessing from God. Children are known to cement marriages and bring unity in the relationships.

In Kirinyaga, a woman was jailed for throwing a kid in a toilet. Another woman in kakamega burnt the private of her female child for having used flour.

In Webuye, a woman called poisons her two children after a quarrel with her husband.

A man defiles her 12 year step daughter.

A father defiles her daughter as the mother was sleeping. So inhuman…

There are also cases where a woman chopped the knuckles of her male child for losing some coins.

The paradox is that, many marriages have collapsed due to one partner being unable to sire. The children being abused are the same being adored and longed for.

Child abuse is detrimental to the child’s personal and development growth and school participation.

What has come of us? Are we hyenas hiding in wolves’ skin?

Let’s shun child abuse and protect them from predators that are preying on them.

A Last Word on Mad Men

So, what are your last words on bad men?

The Axis of Ego

I began to get worried at about 10:58.

Realizing there wasn’t much time left in the series, I wondered how Matthew Weiner would be able to conclude Mad Men in a way that made sense and was true to the characters he had developed over seven (really eight) seasons.

DonDraperDoorThe resolution wasn’t perfect, but I think time will be kind to it.

Last week, I discussed what we might get from the finale.  I noted one key scene in the penultimate episode, where Don appears to glean some stroke of inspiration from staring at a broken, old-fashioned Coke machine.  I said that I thought that would lead to an epiphanic moment in the finale, generating one last spectacular (and redemptive) pitch at McCann that produced an incredible, iconic campaign.

We didn’t get to see the pitch, sadly, but the conclusion of the finale lets the viewer in on the secret:…

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